tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16825229.post6072497200986838662..comments2023-11-05T01:20:41.116-07:00Comments on gwendomama: It Surprised Me Too.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16825229.post-67515227934843561512010-01-28T13:57:48.823-08:002010-01-28T13:57:48.823-08:00OK, I'm disgustingly late posting this, but I ...OK, I'm disgustingly late posting this, but I have good excuses. Loads of them. Too many to share :-) <br /><br />I was in an abusive (mostly non-physical abuse) marriage for 13 long and terrible years. I have now been divorced for over 7-1/2 years and in a new, happy & healthy marriage for almost 6 years. During this time, my kids have learned to understand that their father's behavior is abusive. They have somewhere to go and someone to talk to when he's being abusive towards them, so they aren't in the same position I was, when I had nowhere to go and no one I could talk to (and no one to tell me what was and what wasn't abuse, because with emotional abuse it isn't always as clear). Showing them a good marriage and having a partner who both I and they respect must be showing them a good example for what to look for in a partner... History really doesn't have to repeat itself - and you're such a smart woman that you won't let it. Not for you & not for your children.Rachel Inbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605780418673759318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16825229.post-513028402610658982010-01-03T22:48:53.276-08:002010-01-03T22:48:53.276-08:00wanted to share this with you: http://bit.ly/5fDDp...wanted to share this with you: http://bit.ly/5fDDpC<br /><br /><br />it's the teaser trailer for the upcoming Despicable Me cartoon movie :) my kids really loved it, so thought you'd enjoy it too!<br />happy new yearsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16825229.post-43268055218878437642010-01-02T17:10:50.647-08:002010-01-02T17:10:50.647-08:00piracy affects porn but it's still winner duri...piracy affects porn but it's still winner during the crunchAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16825229.post-21380727284247890442009-12-31T10:29:34.031-08:002009-12-31T10:29:34.031-08:00I remember trying to provoke Aaron early on too - ...I remember trying to provoke Aaron early on too - I wanted to know if he could handle me, what he would do when I went off the deep end, if he could do what needed to be done or if he would flee, yell back at me, or sit in stony silence. I've never been in a physically abusive relationship, but I've been in several mentally manipulative ones - and I had to know he wasn't going to do that to me, that he wouldn't treat me the way the others had. And you know...the 2nd marks 7 years together. Do we yell? yes. Do we fight? yes. Do we calm down and communicate? yes. Does he get me? oh yes, he does. I don't think I get him very well, but we're happy. <br /><br />You'll get there in time. I agree with your friend - test them. See what they do during a fight, and trust your instincts. I know you're afraid, and you have every right to be...but you can't let him control and destroy you by his actions. *hugs* You're stronger than you think. :)Tiggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01469966108028329809noreply@blogger.com