The day he admits that his violent and unnecessary actions have negatively impacted our children, and that listening to our child scream, "Stop, Daddy! STOP!! Stop breaking mama's arm!!" should have been enough to stop him from continuing to hurt me, will be the day we move forward for our children.
His action, not his absence, was the catalyst here.
Instead, we are in a place where I have been accused of 'planning' the whole incident to get him out of my life.
Which, if you think about it, makes about as much sense as a spleen.