Tuesday, April 28, 2009

I am only going to do this once....




And with much shame associated.....






42 comments:

furiousBall said...

wish i could, but i was dejobbed a couple weeks ago

Jennifer Newby Blanchard said...

i a going to see what I can do, but I hate paypal so you will see me in person. . .

RuthWells said...

NO SHAME. None at all. Thank you for giving those of us on the other side of the country a way we can help.

Be strong -- be safe.

MemeGRL said...

No shame for you. (Say in the Seinfeld-Soup-Nazi voice.) You were not the one who left the bill unpaid, whatever weird universe the electric company lives in notwithstanding.
My mother was the kind of teacher who would hear of a family in the community in trouble, and would mail me an envelope at college with instructions to copy an address on it and mail it from the big regional post office so it would be untraceable. When I would ask what was in it, the answer was usually cash, though sometimes it was movie tickets or other treats that were not in the budget but the kids would like or that the family could use to re-gift in holiday seasons.
I was lucky to be nurtured by that kind of a loving person. And in ten years or less, when this is all something you shake your head at, wondering how exactly you got through it, you'll click on someone else's button, thinking, you're going to be fine. I know it. Hang in there.

Anonymous said...

What about his family? Will they not support their nieces/nephews/grandchildren?

Or are they all a rotten bunch?

Jarbig said...

I am going to send you a few pennies, but only if you PROMISE NOT TO PAY ANY OF HIS BILLS WITH IT! You are NOT responsible for any of his debts, PERIOD, I don't care what you were told on the phone by PG&E. If you want me to call them and fight it for you, I'll do that. Seriously. They'd be stupid not to try to get that money from you, but it's not your bill to pay and they'll just have to either go after him for it or eat the loss. Don't pay ANY bills that were in his name. C'mon, promise.

Hey You said...

No shame, I have been clicking ads for you already, and did what I could (being a SAHM), All of the suggestions about calling churches and such are good ones, you can then use the paypal money for a damn good lawyer. You are still in my prayers.

Miss Grace said...

No shame at all darling. If I had any moneys to give you you would already have them.

Let me know if you need any help with...well anything else. I'm pretty much only good for moral support and gossip.

Linda said...

Thanks for giving those of us far away the opportunity to help a friend...
You are LOVED!!!

Headless Mom said...

Feed the kids, pay a lawyer, get a mani/pedi, but don't bail his ass out.

Love you, lady!

Linda said...

G-
If you use this money to pay bills that are in his name that's ok. I'm not so sure you can change that when you have been living there too. It would be hard to prove that those bills are not yours as well, so do what you have to do with the money. It's all about taking care of YOU and those KIDDOS. (not that it wouldn't be totally cool to have him royally screwed!!)
Hold your head up high and do what you gotta do.

VDog said...

Oh honey, I had no idea!

Big hugs and kisses (and monetary support).

xoxoxoxo

cuteellaisbold said...

I can't until next week, I hope that's soon enough...

Use it as you see fit, but if I could ask? Please use it to help yourself. Nothing towards him. Please.

Denise said...
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Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

I am going to see if I can help...

julia said...

DUDE.
Shame is reletive...

Anonymous said...

Something for you and the fam. Take good care- thinking of you. Ga. from SF

jennyalice said...

no shame...
love to you-
Jennyalice

badgermama said...

Some day you will pay it forward and you will be super wise in how you do. xox

Mama Deb said...

Oh, Gwendolyn! When will you be up in HMB again? Come eat lunch with us. Bring the kiddos. Worried about you and sorry that I have been out of touch.

Jo said...

Just read you for the first time today. *hugs* I couldn't give much but hope it helps. You can do this. You CAN.

Gwen said...

I'm so sorry for your situation. I really wish I could help you out but we're having some money problems here.

There is no shame in asking for help when we need it. I hope you get everything you need. God bless you.

Sassafrass said...

Donation made. JUST.GET.OUT. And take care.

Lunasea said...

Usually I try to be at peace with the fact that I am not rich, but this is one time I really wish I was, so I could give more.

You have to keep the power on.

Anonymous said...

Making a donation NOW. I understand what it is to need some large - yet small in the face of everything - amount of money. Trust us, the people who read your blog and support you unequivocally. We are all here for you.
And if you don't raise enough through this let us know and those of us who can will donate more.
You deserve love from people who are NEVER mean in their own homes to the people who love them.

Denise said...

I am in girlfriend! Love you.

smitri@verizon.net said...

There's no shame in asking for help. What else is humanity for? Much love and luck.

Jo said...

Two comments above mine someone said to let us know if you don't raise enough. I'm worried that you will not be able to ask again...especially since you said "I am only going to do this once..."

Please please please let us know if you need more help. Please?

I'm so worried and at the same time so very proud that you are doing the right thing for you and your babies!

elkit said...

I'm going to pitch in soon, in just a couple of days.
And don't feel bad. And don't feel bad about asking again. We're all here to help.

Love and money,


elkit

Melissa said...

I have been a victim of domestic violence myself. You are describing all the feelings we all have had and still have.
This is not your fault or problem.
This is HIS problem. This will not go away and it will continue if you stay will him. Trust me, I know from experience. Slow learner here.
Save your children and save yourself.
please let us know if you need more money, etc.

Marin said...

I can't donate now but when my first paycheck comes in a few weeks I'll hopefully be able to swing you a bit of it.

Don't be ashamed.

flutter said...

done. No shame. None. like I told you in email, a lot of us have been where you are.

you know how to get ahold of me if you need anything.

Mel said...

You don't know me at all, but let me tell you, this is the first time in a few years I've felt like giving money online.

I gave you all three bucks I have in my PayPal :( sorry it isn't more. I've been in some deep financial hot water and can appreciate the stress and fear of that part of things. For the rest - good riddance to bad garbage, gwendomama. I'll be pulling for you.

Rachel Inbar said...

Thank you for answering my question :-)

Anonymous said...

I found you through Ruth's site, and I'm more than happy to help. I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time, and I hope things get better for you very soon.
Please don't apologize for what you are going through. We all have hurdles in life and hopefully, you will be able to look back on this difficult time and be stronger because of it.
Please let us know if there is ANYTHING else that you need.

With Many Hugs,
Marlene in NJ

Lisa in TX said...

I applaud your bravery in everything you've done to find a better life. I'm glad I had the chance to help. I only wish I had more to give.

Boss of Seattle said...

G. Keep this button on your site for as long as necessary. And for God's sake, don't keep the $ in an account with your name. Waiting to hear from you again... XOXO Twisted my bloody anke again and laid up for the night. Call meeeeeeee

GraceD said...

Checking in. Happy that you have the blog under wraps for now. Come over any time. ANY TIME.

Sent you email with my usual ranting.

Wonderful to see you today, my sweet.

XOXO

Sophie said...

I'm sorry that I'm not in a position to help you out with that. I hope you are getting enough money to help you out. Still thinking of you. I wish you could tell us more about what's going on. It's obvious people are holding you back and that sucks because you need support.

Anonymous said...

Honestly, it is my pleasure to try and lend a hand to any strong woman who simply needs a "boost" of sorts.
And you are strong.
And you'll come through this, with time, loved friends, the knowledge that many unfortunately have dealt with this also, and that your babes need you to.
So you will.
And the time will come when you will be the one extending the "boost".

And you all will end up just fine, on the other side of the fence.
So stay strong!

With love, Chris in NY

Roni said...

I am donating now. Please use the money as you see fit for you and the kids. I know it isn't much, but every little bit helps I am sure.

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