If you want to apologize to your victim, I mean really apologize (as in, 'you have genuine feelings of remorse'), here is my advice to you.
- Do not ever follow up your apology with a 'but...', thus rendering it no longer valid.
- Do not go on to say - yet again - that your actions were defensive. Unless someone was hurting you physically, threatening you with a weapon, or physically hurting another person, your actions were not defensive. 2.a) Chasing someone into a house to violently grab them, shake them, keep them from leaving a room, bruise, batter and choke (twice) does not meet this criteria of 'defensive behavior'.
- #2 actually takes what you may have
convinced yourself wasintended to be an apology, and turns it into just a really complicated and pathetic defense for your violence.
- Do not confuse the word 'battery' with 'restraint'. (See 2.a)) I know that's a tough one, but it's not restraint when you chase someone who is trying to get away from you. In any reality.
- Do not confuse the term 'battery' with 'grabbing and/or holding' someone.
- Do not confuse claiming 'remorse' for actions with 'regret' for having a consequence. They are not one in the same.
- Do not continue to emotionally abuse your victim via following up the
apologydefense with a novel's worth of manipulative lies.