Saturday, June 20, 2009

Censorship IS a Bitch.

So, just so we all know, I am being censored by an angry 55 yr old woman.
I was the recipient of a spewing, scathing warning phoned in by yet another of his family members. I was warned that someone is just waiting for me to screw up illegally on my blog. Like I said, just so we all know.
Ironically, that someone is the same someone who stood there and watched things degrade before her wide eyes and calmly walked away with my child as my situation became more dangerous. The same someone who admitted to the police that she followed me as I was trying to walk away from the argument, and that she did not call 911 when begged. The same someone who went home with a new and improved story (I mean, what are the chances that they would see the police report, too?) and said I went 'nutso wutso' and that 'he had to restrain' me.
Just so we all know, this is the person who is waiting for me to 'blow it'. This is the person who thinks I should stop writing about all of this and calls it WRONG and INDECENT.

Fuck that.
I am sorry my writing includes dead baby material - it happened and I write about it, okay?
And I am sorry that my writing now includes domestic violence material, because really? I would much rather it didn't happen and I didn't have to write about it either.
But it did happen.

And those bastards are not going to silence me any more.

They all know it is wrong.
They just choose to pretend that it isn't.

36 comments:

Headless Mom said...

We're behind you. Write what you want.

furiousBall said...

I'm going to fart in a ziplock bag and mail it to her. And I've been eating crabcakes and broccoli.

Jill said...

I'm new here, but just wanted to throw in another voice of support. And yay for you for being able to recognize that it is these people and this situation that is crazy instead of shifting the blame to yourself, as is all too common.

Just Breathe said...

I hate that feeling inside when you know you are right, God is your witness, yet someone has convinced others to believe your the one at fault. Their day will come and it won't be pretty!

Steve said...

They're ignorant fools who would rather justify domestic violence than to come to terms with their own shortcomings, mistakes, and frailties and work to improve their inner selves. I do stress the words IGNORANT FOOLS.

flutter said...

they will get theirs.

maplesyrup said...

GOOD
FOR
YOU
and your children.
Hugs and LOTS of love!

maggie, dammit said...

YOU are not the one who did anything wrong here, and YOU are not the one who has to be afraid. They should be incredibly ashamed. You should be incredibly proud for speaking out. Period.

Anonymous said...

Write what ever you need to write,It's your experience that you didn't ask for. What they think is irrelevant
you haven't been in the wrong. You are living your life and coping the best way you can,whether others like it or not.
By putting your children first and writing you are not turning a blind eye to injustice...... I think you're doing the best you can as a parent and I say BRAVO!

becomingwhole said...

So, THAT'S who censorship is...I was wondering.

Keep writing.

Morgana said...

I think that the only way to stop their lies is to shine the light on the truth. Not their new and improved truth, or the truth that they have deluded themselves into believing....but the real, painful, and factual truth. Bravo to you for telling the truth - no matter how hard and painful. You are being a model for all mothers and for all who have survived any form of abuse!!!

Yo is Me said...

WOO to the (uhhhh... i can't remember if you drop the F bomb here or not) HOOO.

keep writing. keep talking. keep bringing it all into the light.

Cindy said...

And what would screwing up "illegally" be? In this country libel applies only if you are making false statements, even when defamation is involved. And you are not under any court order to refrain from discussing, no? She sounds like kind of an idiot widiot.

Denise said...

There just a bunch of fuck tards! I say write what you want.I do.

Sophie said...

Unbelievable.

You should publish her letter (or a transcipt of the phone call) and let us rip her a new one. That'll make her think twice for HARASSING you on YOUR OWN BLOG.

un-fucking-believeable. Obviously someone's getting desperate and sending in the big guns to harrass you. Moving next door certainly isn't working...

MFA Mama said...

<3 you.

Vodka Mom said...

I am with you, i support you, i will embrace you and hold you and keep you company.


Now, where's the vodka?

Vodka Mom said...

okay, furiousball just cracked me up. It helps to laugh when people are so damn stupid...


i mean the 55 year old. Not FB. He was brilliant.

Roni said...

Just dropping a note to show my support for you. This is YOUR blog... write whatever YOU want.. to hell with them, if they don't like it that is their problem. Still thinking about and praying for you and the kids. Keep writing what you want, it may be a blessing to someone else to see it. It may help another woman escape from domestic violence.

Jess said...

Good on ya

Loralee Choate said...

Part of me wishes SHE could be held criminally responsible too. Some time in prison really sounds appealing right now. I wonder how she would take to the women in cell block A giving HER a pounding.

People like her that shield and make excuses for molesters, abusers, and allow cruelty and fear and violence to hurt those in a dominated position are the bottom of the barrel of humanity.

Speak out, sweetie. Shine a light on those bastard cockroaches so their filth and contamination will stop.

mamadaisy said...

she shouldn't be able to call on the phone and harass and threaten you. do you have a restraining order against her? can you get one? she participated in the violence.

hugs and strength to you and the kids. you are doing the right thing.

anna samantha said...

I can't figure out why she thinks you aren't allowed to talk about your experience. I went through a bit of that when my exes family got upset with me for seeking support and advice during his drug induced assfoolery. They all accused me of sullying his good name and couldn't see how any of it was actually a very difficult experience for me and my kids to live through. You have every right to seek love and support from friends, even in a small town. If the person causing the situation is uncomfortable with people knowing these things about them perhaps they should refrain from doing them,no? Families get so weird when choosing sides. Suddenly the indefensible becomes acceptable and suddenly it is all your fault. It is hard to stay sane, isn't it? Especially if you were ever close.

Leslie said...

You need to keep talking about this. Too many people try to hide it or are intimidated into keeping silent.

I hope you have this warning in a tape that you can take to the police or the prosecutor. This needs to be placed on record.

Miss Grace said...

Fuck that shit.

sarah said...

Stay STRONG and don't let them intimidate you!

Which Box said...

I am so sorry this is yet another thing to deal with. Hope you can find peace.

SUEB0B said...

Last time I checked, the 1st Amendment to the US Constitution made it ok to tell the truth either in writing or aloud, no matter how much people don't want to hear it.

Jennifer said...

The person(if they could be called one) whom chose to give you their . piece of mind chooses to see the world from one small point of view. and chooses NOT to see it from all sides. their loss. you do not need to deal with it. stay strong!

Shea's Mom said...

You so need to be away from these people.

XO

Sheena said...

Good Lord, what a desperate and dangerous fool of a woman. I am having fantasies of charging her with being an accessory, and being an accessory before the fact, as she knew what he was going to do before he grabbed you the second time. I think you would be justified in hanging up immediately you hear her voice on the phone.

Magpie said...

Write, hon, keep writing.

Anne said...

Who would be so silly as to attempt to censor you ;) This is your story as much (more?) as it is his.

Melissa said...

Screw her amd I like the restraining order comment too.
It is hard to understand domestic violence unless you have been through it. I have survived it in high school and a marriage. I could be stupid and naive back then.
Go forward, do not blame yourself and thank God you are alive.
Bless you.

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