Thursday, June 11, 2009

I am worried too....

I am here.

Family court is coming up, so you won't hear much from me right now.

There is very little news, other than the passive aggressive belligerence continues. His mail still comes here. No forwarding address. No attempt at a kind approach to moving his things. No attempt or response from his friends at all. Not a cent volunteered to assist our children in two months. No appearance, but no forthcoming details about his whereabouts, either.
How mysterious.

He still knows how to intimidate me. But I am less likely to fall for it this time.
My new housemate and his two awesome and very large dogs certainly help with that aspect of transition.

15 comments:

Frogdancer said...

I'm glad you've got company.

I laughed when you said there'd been no child support. Don't hold ypur breath on that one!!!!

Sheena said...

So glad to see your blog back, I was very worried. I am breathless with admiration at your courage and graceful handling of this whole horror situation. Could you put "Return to sender, no longer at this address" on his mail and put it back in the post?

Denise said...

I get no child supoort eith G. So far he owes welfare 6 months of payments. Hugs!

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

((hug))

Lauri said...

So glad to hear you are ok - even happier to hear you have a housemate - good luck with family court - let them know just what an ass he has been - hopefully they can help...you're an inspiration gwendomama - your strength and perserverance are inspiring...

Alexicographer said...

I too vote for "no longer at this address" on the mail.

Glad you've got (adult) human and canine companionship!

Headless Mom said...

I second the adult/canine back up. That is good news!

Anonymous said...

Gwendomama,
You don't know me from Adam. I'm not sure how I became connected to your blog. But I have been where you are. I want to encourage you to take your power back, little by little. Decide in every moment, every day that you will not be intimidated. Make it a concious on-going decision. Be smart, don't react from an emotional place. You are better than that. Do the right thing because it's the right thing to do. Don't let his crap control you. I rented a van, loaded it with his crap and dropped it in his driveway. All by myself. I was never so exhausted and so empowered. I realize you don't know where he is, but if you have ANY way to contact him, perhaps through relatives, you could have them tell him where and when his stuff will land. Just some thoughts shared by someone who has walked in your shoes.

Be Strong.
Joan

Which Box said...

Glad you are ok.

jadedkayla said...

I grew up in an abusive childhood, and I have to applaud you for your strength and courage. I know my mom did what she thought was right, what she thought would keep us safe - but watching what he did to her, it affected me so deeply to this day.

I want you to know that I understand how scary it is for you and your children right now, but you have done a great thing for them! I don't mean to sound like my mom did wrong - things were different then... but I just wanted to let you know I think you are a very brave, strong, loving woman and I check in to your blog often just to see how you're doing.

Stay strong! You can do this.

RuthWells said...

VERY glad to hear about your housemate and the dogs. Courage!

Jennifer said...

keeping you in my thoughts. stay strong through these trying times. there are plenty of us that are rooting for you! I am a mom of two kids and i know how hard i would want to fight (for whats best) tooth and nail for them.

Anonymous said...

Hi There,

I would be returning his mail "not at this address" and I would be packing his stuff as you find it... You don't know when he will demand his stuff but he will and you'll be prepared...

Find out from legal chanels what you can do with his stuff and how long you are required to keep it....

Where is your family?

Best wishes,
Chezza (Australia)

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