Friday, September 08, 2006

Before I Blogged - 20 Things

One year ago I:
  1. had no blog
  2. was pregnant
  3. was feeling crazy due to hormones
  4. didn't know Grace Davis
  5. didn't know that grace would reconnect me with lost friend Jen
  6. was the parent of one live child
  7. hated brussel sprouts
  8. thought I couldn't help victims of Hurricane Katrina because I was on bedrest
  9. was reading a book a day
  10. couldn't see my feet
  11. wanted to sue my dead son's pediatrician
  12. really wanted to drink a full glass of wine
  13. couldn't decide what to do with Elijah's ashes
  14. wanted to name my unborn son Malachi
  15. predicted that I would give birth to my son on Halloween
  16. had a lot of good friends
  17. was prone to profoundly sad spells
  18. wanted to go to Hawaii for my 40th birthday
  19. lodged a complaint about hospital food
  20. wondered if my baby would be allright


Today, I:
  1. have a blog
  2. am not pregnant
  3. am feeling crazy due to sleep deprivation
  4. know and love Grace Davis
  5. am reconnected with Jen
  6. am the parent of two live children
  7. still hate brussel sprouts
  8. did help with Grace's Katrina Relief Site while on bedrest
  9. average about a book a week
  10. can see my feet
  11. have decided not to sue anyone at all
  12. will have 2 glasses of wine
  13. still haven't done anything with Elijah's ashes
  14. have a son who is not named Malachi
  15. will celebrate his first birthday on Nov 1st, the day after Halloween
  16. have even more good friends
  17. am prone to about half as many profoundly sad spells as a year ago
  18. am packing to go to Hawaii for my birthday
  19. lodged a complaint about the ASSHAT CHP officer
  20. have the most awesomest baby in the world

Thursday, September 07, 2006

Thanks for the propaganda, Scholastic!

How many of you have ordered the complete set of Curious George for only $10.95? Or a great bug encylcopedia complete with stickers and bug cage? All delivered conveniently to your school, sent home in your child's backpack, having magically transformed from the check that was paper-clipped to the newsprint order form which was sent to school in your child's backpack just two weeks before!
Wow! And have you seen the Bookfairs that they put on? Nice! They set up a display that any self-respecting five year old would find a justifiable situation for throwing a fit if you do not buy her the polar bear book that comes with that cute little stuffed polar bear right now.
But WAIT! DON'T GO!! (MORE CAPS AND MORE !!!!!!s REALLY!!!!!)
I MEAN IT!
They have made a bad corporate decision and they must have a consequence. Tomorrow's a new day, Scholastic. You can make better choices then. But today you must have a time out. You are not a bad company, but your behavior has been very very bad.
You should not buy into the GOP 9/11 re-writing history for the sake of perpetual war dogma, and you definitely should not be trying to sell it to my children.
Since I get all emotional about this sort of stuff (WHAT? YOU WANNA FEED PROPAGANDA TO MY FIVE YEAR OLD? IN SCHOOL? LET'S TAKE THIS OUTSIDE. RIGHT NOW - YOU AND ME, I MEAN IT!), I will spare you wading through my outbursts, and just go directly to the most succinct sources yourself.
NOW!
The Huffington Post
Daily Kos
Think Progress


UPDATE: Yeah, Scholastic! I knew you were educable! You made the right decision! Good Job! I will now give you a cookie!

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Things I never want to hear again:

From the yoga instructor at the studio who was saying goodbye to one of his clients after their class and assaulted my infant's delicate ears and my digestion all at once:
"You were just oozing love all over the room today."
Said oozer, gazed back glassily and oozed a bit more. But the yogi didn't know when to quit.
"Ten gallon buckets of love."
(you may now hurl)


From my Dh, who was trusted and left with our precious mobile infant who subsists only on breastmilk and cheerios and given instructions to give him soymilk in a bottle should he raise a ruckus and then asked by me, hours later, WHAT ON EARTH WAS IN HIS BOTTLE?:
"Yes that is the chocolate rice milk that was in the refrigerator that Supergirl drinks. I couldn't find the other stuff."
("But he loved it!")


From my dear daughter:
"I will only_A__ if YOU _B__!"
(feel free to fill in the ___s; A should have something to do with behavior, and B should have something to do with giving sugar)

From the steroid-pumped pimply CHP who pulled me over today for a seatbelt infraction when I had removed my arm from the shoulder strap momentarily to reach back to Supergirl and NOT SMACK HER for undoing her upper clip but attempt to do it for her and (realizing what a stupid idea that was) pull into the next parking lot to find him pulled in behind me and then when I attempted to remove my screaming infant from the back seat of the 100 degree car:
"You stay put right there, ma'am."

Friday, September 01, 2006

TEN MONTHS!


Dear Little E (aka Bubbles, aka Mangler, aka Sweetboy);
You are a big shot. Fat cat, big cheese, top dog, da kine.
You rock, and you know it.
For some time now, you've been able to work a room. You have piercing baby blues that beg to make contact - and you know how to use them, my boy.
Every day you begin by grinning. Every day. Usually followed by the giggle. One single, cheerful 'geh', that knowing look you flash me while your eyebrows are still laughing - our private joke. When you crawl up on my chest and try to head-butt me, I usually try and distract you with offers of more milk. "More nursing? Nurse again?" I ask hopefully. You know that word to be certain, as many have paid surprise witness to someone else offering to nurse, and at the sound of the 'nur' you are tossing backward in my arms and scrappling for the entry to the nipples. Darn clothes get in the way! When your belly is full and no amount of morning milk can placate you, you usually let out a few good rips, more grins, then it's up-and-at-em. Unless I want to get head butted again.
You love the great outdoors. You love to swing, hang out in the outdoor playpen, take walks in the bjorn (almost graduated to the backpack, mr. longlegs!), touch plants-trees-dirt, bounce on the trampoline, take secretive rides with Daddy on the zipline (thankyou, mr. babybjorn), and bang on the door to outside when you feel inclined to see and be in it. Did I mention that you rock?
You have a...well...precocious and testosterone-fueled sense of humor. One morning (when you were just nine months old, which makes what I am about to say even more remarkable), you let out this huge teenager fart, looked right up at me with a grin, and gave me a huge raspberry, thus showing me that you did realize exactly what had just occurred. Impressive.
This has been a very big month for you - first you finally mastered sitting without falling, but then, only days later, crawling quickly smashed any notion you might have had of sitting around. Within days of discovering you could crawl and thrash your way across a room, you also realized that you could use your arms to achieve a vertical position - what we bipods call standing. The first time you did this, I threw up my arms and shouted "YAY!", and the next ten times you pulled yourself up, you would toss your arms in the air, yell, "Yaaaaaaayyy", and promptly lose your balance and plop to the floor. Then (and this is my favorite part) you would look around the room as if you wondered who pushed you! (I did not)
Earlier this month, at the beginning of our Seattle sojourn, you had just begun to crawl. Julia very accurately described your crawling ballet as resembling one of those sticky things that you throw on a window and then watch as it chaotically makes its way down to the bottom. But by the time we left you were showing off with a quick scoot, able to hold on to a table with only one hand while standing. One friend remarked that it wouldn't be long until you started walking, the way you keep practicing that balance skill! Please forgive my gut third-kid-reaction: "Not if we keep pushing him over!" You're just SO active...let's stick with crawling for a while, shall we?
At some point this month I finally figured out that you just hate baby food, and yes, I promise I will stop buying it, opening it, feigning mock excitement about it, sniffing it, and shoving it into your unwilling mouth. And from now until you deem it unpalatable, I promise to mix everything that I do try and feed you with your favorite food, pesto. Mashed potatoes and avocado? Both duds -until mixed with pesto. Basil will do in a pinch, but you prefer the cilantro variety - the more garlic, the better. I will keep trying with the bananas and oatmeal in the mornings though, darling. Mama can't take your garlic breath too early in the morning.
Your vocabulary is growing. I really have to stop saying "Oh shit" when you wake up (every one to two hours!), or it is sure to be your first phrase. Since you are still on single word utterances, I consider myself safe for a limited time - but On Notice.
So, you say: Yay!, Dada, 'at (cat - yes it really is, since you say it whenever the 'at comes in the 'oom!), kak-kak (when looking at the duck), hey!, mmmmmmm (yum), and...(drumroll, please)...MAMA! Oh yes, you SAY it! Not just calling me 'milk' as you have been signing at me for months (my name is not milk), but MAMA! Thankyou, sweetbabyboy. Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!
You, my dear one, are everything we needed - and we didn't even know what we needed. Because you are so fabulous, I will save my little tiny rant about how you never ever sleep through the night and how I am so sleep deprived right now, I am perfect cult material. For another day.
Because today I celebrate you.
Love, Mama

(editor's note: yes, they really are that blue.)

Thursday, August 31, 2006

Eviction Notice

Dear Ms. Pocket;

It is with very little regret that I inform you: It is time for you to move on. I have no more room in my heart than I do in my home for you and your inane and plastic minded 'existence', with your insatiable demands for more more, and still more material C+R+A+P. Not that you and your gang weren't a colorful bunch in the early days (and I don't mean culturally, iykwim, haha!), but that was before you had locked your tiny and surprisingly sharp grip on my young daughter's way-too-malleable mind.
I even remember when you first came into our lives, on Supergirl's third birthday when a friend introduced us - remember? You wore a very cute peasant dress (great for a first impression for the next family, by the way) and brought with you an adorable puppy. Everyone loved you that day - well, all the little girls at least! I was a little suspicious, the way you didn't even touch the cake and bore a slight resemblance to Nicole Richie, but hey - at least proportionally, you didn't look like that other chick who moved into the neighborhood recently, Barbi something or other? Whoa - you want to talk some crazy plastic surgery? Don't get me started on her and her valium-fixed stare!
I digress.
So, what was that - July? Well, as you well know, by January there were more than sixteen of you and your buddies, setting up some sort of twisted commune in my daughter's bedroom. And by count today, there are at least twice that! (Come on, what was that when your 'new friends' all showed up and crashed Supergirl's party when I had clearly said beforehand NO MORE!? that was just so not cool). I don't care how long you have known Lea, Lila, Rick, Rack ,whatever - just get them packed up now.
At first I thought perhaps we could co-exist. Really, you aren't that big, you eat nothing, and even the whole commune thing seemed do-able in the beginning. I am all for peace love and understanding, communal living - sure it seems like a great idea, almost never works, but hey - you made it seem like maybe it would be possible, to do it in a quiet way. But then, without warning, you put up a mall. Really, did you think I just wouldn't notice? And before any of us could blink an eye, our home was filled with ho-clothes. Seriously, if I wanted my daughter to dress like Britney, I'd buy her a Britney doll.
Back to you and your clothes-horse friends. Oh. My. God. What were you thinking with the bluish-tinged clear vinyl pantsuit? And the black 'leather' with sparkles, cool in an 'off-the shoulder' kind of way? Not. And don't get me started on the massive collection of shoes that would make a sunset boulevard hooker into a porn star overnight. Stilettos with a bathing suit? Really, Polly?
If you have your way, my daughter and millions more will be prancing around in replicas of your slutty-ass clothes before their breasts even consider a growth spurt!
So take your mall full of harlot & whores fashion, your posse of pathetic friends (also bimbos), take your sucky fashion-conscious scooters, your manipulative mermaid buddy, your pathetic boyfriends (hello? they are SO gay. just look at them in the sleigh together. WAKE UP!), and everything else you have stashed under my little girl's bed. Get it out now. Take it off to craigslist or ebay, take it to the dump; I don't care, but I have had enough of your tart-fest.
OUT!



















In sincerity and exasperation;
Supergirl's Mama

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

First day of school: Painless!


We made it on time. From the looks of the parking lot and surrounding quiet street-turned parking lot, I am more than glad that we are able to walk. The classrooms are amazing; I have an issue with pre-schools and kindergartens that are too academically focused. Children learn great skills for learning later in life if they are allowed to learn through play during those first years of school. So of course I am as thrilled at Supergirl and her friends who squeal when they see there is a basket in the 'house' area that is CHOCK FULL of high heels, and on the other side of the kitchen there is a giant block land - blocks of every shape and size, all of the nice wooden chunky variety. And what better to complement block land but a stellar collection of colorful animals? Moving on down to the math manipulatives center, the giant U-shaped window seat covered with pillows and reserved for reading and quiet activities, the thick array of books, the tables for seatwork, and the piece de resistance, the virtual kid magnet, The Office. The Office is actually an L-shaped table area, supplied with letter sorters, paper of every variety, envelopes, cards, pens and pencils, tape, scissors, etc one large mailbox, and little tiny mailboxes labeled with every child's name in the kindergarten. And I haven't even mentioned the outdoor play area that is surrounded by redwood fairy circles. Have I?
I am still slightly disturbed about the crying thing. I didn't. It all happened so fast - I went to say goodbye and she had already blown me a kiss and was out the door to the playground. I went down to the library to join the other mommies for the welcome-back-to-school coffee and overheard two of what I would consider my 'tougher' friends sniffling and recalling their own emotional goodbyes. Surprised by their unexpected display of tears, I felt like such a crappy mama for not crying that then I shed a few myself. Ah, that was better.
There are twenty little ones in her class, which is connected to the K-1 class, which has another eight kindergartners and twelve first graders. Actually, I should not call them little ones, as it seems there are some budding runway models in her class- more than a handful of these extremely tall five year olds, all of whom have a fondness for Mrs. K's old shoe collection. The green velvet pair are in high demand, I can tell you that. And apparently, they learn through blocks, books, microscopes, math centers and coveted high heels - and I am fine with that.
For now.
I would like to point out though, that after selecting her white (!) beaded (!) dress to wear on her first day, she also insisted on those sensible, black docmarten-type high tops.

By the way, the rose that Supergirl is holding was given to her at breakfast. She decided to share the love and pass it along to her teacher. What a wise little girl!

Thursday, August 24, 2006

another letting go


This is a picture of Supergirl being touched by a butterfly at the fabulous zoo in Seattle, where she did not get eaten by a bear, but that is another story. Right now it's this one:

So tomorrow is The Kindergarten Orientation. It's a lot like preschool graduation, in that, nobody really cares about it but for the parents of the kinder involved. But OH! We care, we genuinely do. We are fortunate enough to be part of a tiny unified elementary school in our own little mountain district, which we are stark raving crazy lucky to live a 1/4 mile level walk away. And Supergirl is on her way to public education on Monday. Yesterday, about half of the incoming kindergarten families met at a nearby beach for the first welcome gathering.
So, tomorrow we have a little lunch, lovingly prepared by the parents' club in welcome of the incoming students and their families. And then we find out the teacher and room to which our child is assigned, and we go spend a little time hanging out in there, much like we did in our visit last spring. I have met both teachers, and either one seems like a great teacher with a great environment going for her as well. We are all very excited here, albeit a bit nervous as well.
I expect I may get a bit weepy at the sight of leaving her there on Monday, but right now I am more nervous about getting Supergirl up and out the door and walking her the five minutes down the dusty street, navigating her around the poison oak, and into her classroom by 8:30AM! OY! This is not going to be easy, since the collective rousing seems to be around 8:25 lately.
Don't get me wrong, she has been doing her part for sure - pretending to be all down with kindergarten, no problem man, it's cool, and then she turns on us and the nastiest sounds pour forth from her little mouth. Followed by sharp reprimands and time outs on hard stools. Followed by cuddles in lap and melting and the not-so-random casual posing of, "I'll be fine once I get used to kindergarten, right Mama?" which melted her mama right into herself.
Oh please let this be painless.

Monday, August 21, 2006

Showered with too much attention

My shower today went just like this:
Supergirl: Mama. Can I have a gumball vitamin?
Gwendomama: SHHHH! I just got your brother asleep! No you may not have a gumball vitamin. Eat some food.
SG: Mama -puh-leeeeease can I have a gumball vitamin? (curses to costco samples!) Pleeeeeeeeeeeeease? I just WANT one!
GM: Oh. Well that changes absolutely nothing. No. Stop asking me. Let me take a shower in peace, please! And please be quiet! The baby is asleep!
11 seconds later
SG: Mama? Can I have a cookie?
GM: (hissing loudly) NO! NO COOKIES OR GUMBALLS OR SUGAR! EAT SOME REAL FOOD AND STOP BUGGING ME! PLEASE!
SG: (yelling loudly) I JUST WANT ONE COOKIE! PLEASE! YOU NEVER LET ME HAVE COOKIES EVER! (totally not true)
GM: Listen to me! Get OUT of the bathroom. NOW. Or I will throw away the whole pack of cookies when I get out of this shower!
SG: But Ma-
GM: Do you think I am kidding? I mean it!
GO!
AWAY!
(CRASH!)
SG: Mama! I put the cookies away! (up on the counter where the crash came from)
( No fool, I rinsed quickly)
SG: MAMA! The baby's awake!

What's not fair today?

I wanted to have a cookie and mama wouldn't let me just because she was in the shower!

Friday, August 18, 2006

How did the SNAKES get ON A PLANE?

Okay, I am going to run off course here, a huge divergence from my usual mundane commentary as an ever boring mommyblogger, and take a leap into commenting about a film. This is not cinema commentary or movie review, just a bothersome observation that has been brought to my attention by he who shares in my compelling need for accuracy, Dh.

I couldn't watch the trailer because formerlyPacbellthenSbcnowAtt sucks donkeydick and I am not sure why we pay monthly for DSL, but I am going to comment on what appears to be a major flaw in the plot. Sure, who cares? It's a movie about mofo snakes on a mofo plane, beyond that morsel, what more would you need to know or care? Well I care. I am a virgo, doomed to forever feel compelled to point out the details. The Details. I will refer to this review as my summary of details. I especially liked that the first paragraph made me laugh so much, as I flew 3 days ago and before I could get through security, I had to dispose of: hand cleaner, H2O for nursingmama, cocoa butter lotion, baby motrin for teethingbaby, and a small bottle of bailey's for teethingbaby's nursingmama.
So, back to the snakes. They're smuggled onto the Hawaii-to-L.A. flight.
That's all I really needed to hear. Does anyone else get this?
There are no snakes in Hawaii.
Oh - apparently there is one type of land snake - but it looks like a worm.
Has any of these people ever even been to Hawaii or paid any attention to Hawaii or read a book about Hawaii to know this?
Hollywood?
HELLLLLOOOOO???