Monday, May 25, 2009

Hello, California Legal System??

I would like to mention this little detail about restraining and stay-away orders....

He knows where I am. He knows.

But do I know where he is?
No, I do not.

Has he volunteered this information, in the interest of answering the questions? Or in the interest of goodwill?

No, he has not.


UPDATE 9/23/09: Did he use the information he got from this post to try and keep his address from me for months? Yes, he did. I am leaving it up. Be forewarned.

7 comments:

Vodka Mom said...

now THAT sucks.


Come on over here. I'll hide ya.

Leslie said...

How do you know? Has he contacted you? If he's called or written you or been outside so you can see him, please call the police and report it! Your safety is important.

furiousBall said...

i have a canoe, i can fend you off with paddles and i'll slap an ass.

Roni said...

Hello. I have been reading your blog for a while now. I was unable to when you went private for a while. When Denise asked her readers to pray for you, I didn't know what was going on, but I have been and will continue to keep you and your kids in my thoughts and prayers. I am just so glad you got away from this. I just wanted to be one more person to let you know that there are people who are thinking of you during this most difficult time.

Evie_Edlund said...

I guess in a flatly logical way, that does make sense. If restraining order says person A must stay away from Person B, there are two critical things.
1) the burden of staying away is on Person A.
2)Person A cannot reasonably comply unless they know where to stay away from.

That assumes a fair amount of "minium safe distance" is involved... in Canada when I went through something similar I was able to get a peace bond which was a simpler, less restrictive order stating that I was not to be contacted or attempted to be contacted.

But I can very much understand why this would make you feel unsafe.

Tash said...

The last few posts have just left me gutted. I'm incredibly furious. I'm disgusted. Mostly I'm overwhelmingly relieved that you're alive, and the kids are safe.

I know you know me from Adam, but please know I'm thinking of you mightily.

becomingwhole said...

Wow...I just found you through the windy path of the internet, and have been reading a lot of your backstory.

I just left my husband almost two months ago now for verbal/emotional abuse (definitely very different, not saying it's the same AT ALL).

I also have experience working with DV victims (ironic, no?). Shit like this really gets to me, adn I've heard it over and over. It's such bullshit.